Hello readers!  This is my first post on Taber’s Truths and I want to take today to introduce myself to you.  My name is EvieJo.  I am a mature Christian woman at the ripe old age of 54.  I am  a Christian woman who is an advocate for the recovery of women from emotional, spiritual wounds.  My husband and I are empty nesters who had the privilege of rearing 6 children.  The oldest of our children is 35 and the youngest is 21 (3 boys and 3 girls). I believe it is really important to be up front with people by telling them who I am so there are never any questions.  I have been married to my wonderful husband, whom I refer to in my writings as Mr. Joe, for over 15 years.  We married in our thirties and became a blended family and helped one another raise each other’s kids, which has added a lot of spice (testimony) to our lives through the years. I have had a heart for women who are in need of emotional and spiritual recovery from devastatingly, heartbreaking situations… [more]

The holiday season is a very stressful time for both those that have been or are going through divorce and for the children who are the innocent victims of divorce. Parents are tempted, because of their woundedness and insecurities, to pit their children against the other parent. This is a very painful experience for the child.  It is because of what I have observed divorced parents do and because of the pain my own children have experienced that I am writing this article. I am appealing to all divorced parents to rise up to a higher standard when dealing with divorce during the holidays.  Putting The Principle Of Love Above Your Need To Be Validated One of the biggest things that happens when to people get divorced is the feeling that you have been invalidated. You feel that your worth or value as a person has been belittled. Because of this, many parents look to their children for validation. Although all of us need validation, looking to our kids to give us that validation is n… [more]

As a single Pastor, I sometimes get asked questions that other Pastor's are not asked simply because they think that my marital status will change my perspective on the issue. What they don't realize is that I am a pastor that has made more than his fair share of mistakes in my life. I don't just speak from a theoretical position concerning the issues that surround divorce and remarriage, but I speak from experience as well. I have made the mistakes of trying to take shortcuts and they ended up just being another trip around the mountain spinning my wheels. Just today, I was asked to write about Christians dating while separated by the Christian Post because of the current controversy going around about Dinesh D'Souza. So as I write this article, I just want to encourage you to take a deep breath, quiet your heart and emotions and listen to the still small voice of the Lord concerning this issue. 3 Critical Issues Concerning Dating While Separated. In order to understand this subje… [more]

At the end of every year, I take time to evaluate the previous year and to pray for the year that is approaching. Because of this personal tradition, I decided to write about some new beginnings ideas for all of you. The last year has been a good year for me spiritually and in terms of ministry but also was a very tough year on me emotionally. Some of those tough issues were due to my own fault, and some were due to the fault people giving in to their human nature and not rising up beyond that. However casting blame, figuring out the reason others were motivated in certain ways, and only going so far as to figure out the reasons for something that happens to you is only part of the process of growth. I hope that this article will give you some insight on how you can discover some new beginnings ideas for yourself for your new year. New beginnings ideas for a fresh start. In order to have a new beginning you must desire to have a fresh start. I know a lady that always ends her email… [more]

What does God say about divorce? For years, the "D" word (divorce) has been pounded on from pulpits across America. It has carried with it a stigmatism of loser, degenerate, and second class citizen within Christiandom. Many churches do not allow divorced people to be members, others do not allow them to be deacons or elders and especially not pastors. Some go as far as demanding remarried divorced people to get divorced again and to be single in the hopes their former partner will choose to re-unite with them. Because of this prejudice against divorced people and their role in the church, I decided to write this post. What does God say about Divorce? There is a passage in the Bible that makes God's heart about divorce very clear. It is found in Malachi 2:16  “For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.” (NLT) … [more]

Why do an article on such a controversial subject as the biblical reasons for divorce?  Recently I was asked by someone who wished to remain anonymous to post an article on the subject of biblical reasons for divorce. Since I felt that the author of this article does a much better job of explaining the biblical teaching on divorce than I ever could, I chose to repost it for everyone. I included an addendum on the end that covers specifically the issue of divorce and ministry. I hope it helps all of you who are dealing with the biblical reasons for divorce. What does the Bible really teach about divorce? by David Instone-Brewer What Does the Bible Say?  The New Testament presents a problem in understanding both what the text says about divorce and its pastoral implications. Jesus appears to say that divorce is allowed only if adultery has occurred: "Whoever divorces a wife, except for sexual indecency, and remarries, commits adultery" (Matt. 19:9). However, this has been i… [more]

The searing emotional pain. The numbness that comes over your soul. The uncontrollable anger. The despair, depression, and bleakness that permeates everything you do. These are just a few of the things that I experienced after divorce. Nothing seems normal. Everything is turned on its head.   Even though I felt alone, I was not alone. Millions of people experience the same things that I did. But did that matter to me at the time? Heck no! I wandered and groped my way along trying to find my way out of the maze that was my shattered life. In fact if it was not for the grace of God sending me a dear pastor/brother/friend from the other end of the theological spectrum, I am not sure where I would be today. God has a very unique sense of humor. He sent a Southern Baptist pastor to minister grace to a broken Pentecostal pastor.   Please allow me to share with you some of the things I learned that helped me get to the place where there truly is life after divorce.   Wh… [more]

I am writing this post my friends to encourage you that no matter what you have gone through in life, God still wants to use you in mighty and powerful ways. No, you may not be the next Billy Graham or Mother Teresa, but then again you may!, but you are still a valid vessel that can be used by God to good things! Romans 11:29 for God's gifts and his call are irrevocable. You may say, oh but you don't know what I have done. The mistakes I have made, the sins I have committed. Honestly, I don't want to know. I do know this. God throws them as far as the east is from the west, into the sea of forgetfulness. You might say, but I am divorced, or I have fallen away from Jesus, or I hate too many people, or I can't speak good, ect. All of these things have been faced by others and God still used them. I always tell people, if God used Balaam's donkey, then He can use me! God uses the foolish things of this world to confound the wise. That means us people! We truly are the foolish things. … [more]